Declaration of Intent (Or "Hello and welcome to my corner of the world")
I started this blog as a place to talk, but I do not always know what to say. I had an ugly falling out with one who was a friend and I have not posted since.
Maybe I haven't written because I had been hurt so badly. Maybe because I was afraid to open up.
Since then, I have been mulling over the possibility of re-creating this blog as a place to talk about Chronic Pain and the effects of taking pain medications for long periods of time.
I feel as though if more people had known how to deal with what I am going through, it might not have been such a catalyst for isolation and disaster. And if I had known all that went with it, I would have been better prepared for what came to pass. Or so I would like to think.
One of the worst feelings is to feel that you are the only one, you are alone, nobody understands and nobody is trying. I attended an intensive pain management program and that was when I learned firsthand that there are others out there struggling too, and that was very cathartic for me. That momentary sense of connection, of knowing I was not alone in this and there are others who do understand. If I can give that to even one person, then I would feel I have partly succeeded here. The other part would be to help the reader realize that some of the people around you are doing the best they can, to the best of their ability, to understand and to help.
It is important to remember that the ones who really care about you will do the best they can, but sometimes people don't even begin to know where to look for information or help. They might not associate the term "Chronic Pain" with what a loved one is going through. The person suffering might not think "Chronic Pain" either when they think of what is happening to them.
Regardless of availability of information, some will choose to leave your life. Some people are not equipped to help you through this. Some people are inherently selfish. Whatever the reason, you need to take care of you, and you need to remember: no matter how bad the depression gets there are those who do understand what you are going through, and there are friends and family who will be there for you no matter what. Sometimes it takes a crisis to find out who your support structure is.
Maybe I haven't written because I had been hurt so badly. Maybe because I was afraid to open up.
Since then, I have been mulling over the possibility of re-creating this blog as a place to talk about Chronic Pain and the effects of taking pain medications for long periods of time.
I feel as though if more people had known how to deal with what I am going through, it might not have been such a catalyst for isolation and disaster. And if I had known all that went with it, I would have been better prepared for what came to pass. Or so I would like to think.
One of the worst feelings is to feel that you are the only one, you are alone, nobody understands and nobody is trying. I attended an intensive pain management program and that was when I learned firsthand that there are others out there struggling too, and that was very cathartic for me. That momentary sense of connection, of knowing I was not alone in this and there are others who do understand. If I can give that to even one person, then I would feel I have partly succeeded here. The other part would be to help the reader realize that some of the people around you are doing the best they can, to the best of their ability, to understand and to help.
It is important to remember that the ones who really care about you will do the best they can, but sometimes people don't even begin to know where to look for information or help. They might not associate the term "Chronic Pain" with what a loved one is going through. The person suffering might not think "Chronic Pain" either when they think of what is happening to them.
Regardless of availability of information, some will choose to leave your life. Some people are not equipped to help you through this. Some people are inherently selfish. Whatever the reason, you need to take care of you, and you need to remember: no matter how bad the depression gets there are those who do understand what you are going through, and there are friends and family who will be there for you no matter what. Sometimes it takes a crisis to find out who your support structure is.
posted by Lady Dusk at
12:15 PM
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